a different raya next year

Hope it's not too late to wish you all selamat hari raya!!!!!

Mintak ampun maaf kalau terkasar bahasa tersilap kata in my entries or comments or even my personal interation with you all, baik via social media or in person!

Okay now guys, I have an honest question to ask ni (sebab my own family tak practise this!): Is it memang the norm for people to follow their tunangs out for jalan raya with their extended family and go visit relatives on the first raya weekend???

Maybe I never realized this practice (trend?) previously because I myself belum bertunang for the past years' raya + dulu no insta-social media for people to update kan? Hur hur hur. Not sure when this practice started but I guess it's good practice for couples to kenalkan diri with their future spouse's relatives and learn how to divide their time for raya visting once they're married?

Ni kalau dah tunang lah. Kalau belum tunang, masih matair sebulan dua but first raya weekend dah ikut jalan raya dengan extended family segala then... that one I reserve I punya comment okay. You know lah... lain orang, lain cara hidup lah kan.

Personally, my mat and I don't see a need to follow each other for raya visiting since our families don't practise it so we spent the long weekend with our own families. Guess this will make next year's jalan raya sessions extra special for us since it will truly be our first time going out to visit relatives during raya together? :D

We did talk about how our raya visiting sessions will be after we're married, though! Sampai pukul 3 pagi berbual ini topic, nyah. Topic hangat sehangat ayam masak merah mak aku di pagi Syawal okay. Bukan hangat sehangat taik ayam eh hahaha

We've already identified that our raya visiting styles are very different from each other's - for his family, as long as you've already met the relatives while visiting another family and dah dapat catch up and bermaafan, that's it, no need to visit their houses already... whereas for my family, we're used to visting every single one of our relatives punya houses... and some relatives are the kind who will merajuk if you don't visit them at their own houses for raya :/

Truth be told, I quite like his family punya style because that's the whole purpose and spirit of raya, right? To celebrate your achievement for being able to fast during Ramadhan + mengeratkan silaturahim by meeting relatives to catch up over good food, good vibes. Technically we don't have to visit each and every house as long as dah jumpa ma. Tidak memenatkan dan tidak membebankan!

But I also understand that my extended family's style is different and I (and my mamat) have to respect that it is a long held tradition that we must visit each person's house even though we've already met him or her and his or her family at another house while out visiting someone else.

Lepas dah discuss discuss malam tu, it seems like we do have a persefahaman on how we will divide our visiting time between our two sides of families but I guess we can't be too confident until it really happens next year??? You all know lah kan, boleh jadi lain in theory and lain in practice ye kawan kawan. So must wait for raya next year to see if we can truly execute it well. Akak excited bercampur seram ni!

Talking about future first jalan raya together as a married couple, can I just be mentel and show our first Raya picture together back in 2008??? Hehehehehe. This one I korek from my old blog. Old blogs are such gems, aren't they! Treasure trove of good old memories.

Urgh crappy lighting and blurred picture but I loved how the shade of our baju really matchy matchy even though we bought them separately. In case you thought I was the one who was particular about having the same shade, it wasn't me okay!!!!! My mat was the one who was being in a goddamn pain in the ass about it. I was happy enough to just wear the same colour. Haha.

Should've guessed he was a bridegroomzilla in the making LULZ

Can't wait to tailor our matchy matchy baju raya for next year too! We'll be using the kain that we're giving each other on our dulangs hehe and it'll be the first time we tailor something together for raya... for the past years we'll just buy off the rack separately and try to match each other.

Oh by the way kan, if you're the sort who tak suka matchy matchy with your other half or your own family then good for you lah okay. Memang up to individuals whether they want or don't want to matchy matchy kan. No need to cakap "boriah boriah ni semua too mainstream" for you. Menang ketupat supply for a year ke kalau you "tak pakai mainstream" during hari raya? Ape kata you stop breathing? Breathing might just be too mainstream for you jugak tau.